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After a decade of marriage,  I discovered my husband was gay when I uncovered his secret life. He informed me he married me solely to have biological children and told me he had planned on me dying since I had some health issues.  

The court system did not support me and instead sided with my ex. The courts protected his sexual status and did not let in all the BDSM that he was engaging in, the affair evidence, pictures, and text messages, etc.  I don’t understand why people who come out who are in straight marriages are protected where if they were heterosexual that same evidence would come in.

—Anonymous

I feel like we are a separate category of divorced people. Like, it's not the first thing you think of when someone says "divorced." My spouse went trans. I said my vows to a man, and now this person is a woman. It's like being a widow, but feels worse... although I can't say I know what a true widow feels like. 

I wish there was a different word or category for this. Everything is different, not just the gender - I can't even explain it. Feels like a new host. I have to watch my children process the change of persona and live it all over again. It's all very hard to explain and isolating that most people will never understand.

—Anonymous